Depersonalization and derealization disorder can sometimes leave us with a sense of hopelessness. What can we do when we find ourselves in this situation?
Depersonalization (DP) and derealization (DR) disorder can cause a lot of misery. You feel disconnected from yourself and the world. It can make you feel numb and block access to emotions such as love and happiness. It makes you feel scared and hyper-alert all the time.
One of the other ways in which DP/DR can affect us is by making us feel depressed, sad, and despondent. It’s not uncommon to feel this way during DP. One feels exhausted fighting these DP feelings and symptoms. You feel all that energy you spent fighting DP was of no use. The DP’s still here, same as before, and doesn’t seem to be going away.
This can sometimes leave us with a sense of hopelessness. What can we do when we find ourselves in this situation?
When I was going through depersonalization and derealization, I often found myself going through a mild depression along with it. I wanted to know when I’d get out of depersonalization. I wanted some kind of reassurance that there was an end to all of this.
I’d get breaks here and there. The intensity of my DP symptoms would decrease from time to time, but those unpleasant feelings always came back. I didn’t realize at that time that this was a setback and that it was part of the DP recovery process.
Instead of enjoying the break period, I’d mull over whether the DP feelings were going to come back or not. I’d be dreading their return.
Over the years, I slowly managed to break free from DP/DR. I have shared my story before, but in this article, I wanted to share a few key things that kept me going during those dark times. I hope it does the same for you as well.
Don’t Beat Yourself Up, Instead Be a Good Parent to Yourself
underlying safety structure.
During this time, don’t treat yourself harshly if you fail to accept DP. Instead, treat yourself the way a good parent would treat their child: with love, affection, and caring. My video on re-parenting yourself can help you in accomplishing this.
You Know What? It’s Ok to Feel Sad
path of acceptance, it is nothing but a slow road to recovery.
Dark Night of the Soul
feel overwhelmed by DP feelings so much that it makes you stay indoors, then stay indoors. If that makes you feel sad that you are losing out on life, then accept that sadness. But try the next day or the next week to venture out.
Know that sadness is an emotion. I like to think of emotions as “energy in motion.” They are always moving through us. Some heavy emotions, such as sadness, hopelessness, and depression, may be moving through us like how a glacier cuts through a mountain: slow and gradual. Still, they are nonetheless moving. Let them move through you.
Cry It Out
sad, beautiful piece of music works, too.
DP No More, my complete DP/DR recovery online course.
The healing process takes time. You can’t see these changes day to day. If you do this, you will feel depressed about your condition. Try to zoom out and see how far you’ve come over a few weeks or months.
Don’t worry. You are still here, safe and sound. None of your scary fears have come true. There may still be a long way to go, but don’t fret about it. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep walking. A thousand-mile journey takes a million little steps.
And finally, remember: nothing is permanent in this world, not even your suffering.
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