Here are some specific steps to recover from depersonalization and derealization.
Early on, when I did not know what I was going through, it used to terrify me. I’ve written at length about my depersonalization story and my eventual recovery. A few people have told me how much hope it gave them to read about my recovery; so today, I want to give my readers a few specific steps they can take to ensure their way out of this condition.
These work whether you have Depersonalization (DP) or Derealization (DR) or both. People who have one, have the other to varying degrees.
Understand What Depersonalization Is
I’ve often remarked that a cure to depersonalization and derealization starts with knowing what the condition is about. This means, understanding the root causes of DP/DR, how it arises, and why we get stuck it.
Many folks don’t really understand what is happening to them. Because of this, they start to fear their condition. They think that this might be the start of some serious mental health crisis. They worry that they will never be the same again. All of this misunderstanding has detrimental effects. It keeps them stuck in fear.
When fear rules your mind, then healing takes a backseat. In order to get the healing process started, one must try to understand what depersonalization truly is and how to recover from it.
The understanding will help reduce the fear associated with DP/DR. After this, you can proceed to the next phase of your recovery.
Face Your DP/DR
Facing your DP/DR symptoms is what you’ll be required to do if you’re serious about recovering from DP/DR. The only way to get over this condition is to go straight through it!
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Now, what does that mean? Most of us, who don’t understand what is happening to us, instinctively fear DP/DR. No one is to be blamed for it. It is in our genes to be afraid of new sensations and experiences.
The more we resist these feelings, the bigger the problem seems to become; but when you turn around and let the same problem hit you and pass through you, it loses its power.
Next time, when you are feeling depersonalized, allow yourself to feel that way. Sink into that feeling. Know that deep inside you are going to be all right. With that in mind, learn to not resist these feelings or run away from them.
Exercise
I found exercising could take the focus off my mind and onto my body. Having your focus always aimed at your thoughts can be exhausting. Especially in the throes of anxiety and DP/DR, our minds can get really agitated and come up with some scary thoughts.
By keeping your focus on these thoughts, you give them strength. When you choose to focus on your body and its movement through exercise, it cuts off that scary thought cycle; nothing is energizing them anymore.
And as an added advantage, you get to be healthier and feel better.
Your body produces endorphins after a workout that are naturally anxiolytic, meaning they soothe your anxiety. If even hearing the word exercise makes you want to give up already then learn how to make fitness part of your life by taking baby steps.
And keeping your awareness on your body during depersonalization makes it less scary to handle the strange feelings and sensations.
Express Yourself
Expression through art, dance, music, and countless other channels is one of the best ways to get out of the DP/DR thought cycle.
Now would be a good time to sign up for that guitar class or join a dance or improv team. It won’t be easy, the first few weeks will be the hardest, but soon, when you start expressing yourself, your mind will get into a state of flow.
Flow is what meditators hope to achieve as an end result, but you can do that without the sitting down and closing your eyes part. When you are in the state of flow, you are so engrossed in whatever you are doing (singing, dancing, painting) that you forget about your troubles.
Being in the state of flow is also the most relaxing feeling, and leaves you with an after-glow that could last for hours to days.
If picking up the guitar, or taking that first dance class seems daunting, here’s any easy tip: coloring books. These are not just for kids anymore; you could easily spend a couple of engaging hours that leaves you feeling relaxed and energized at the end.
Reconnect with Life
Right now, because of your DP/DR, you may feel disconnected from life. You may have lost interest in your previous activities, or are too scared to do anything at all. All you probably want to do is lie on your bed with your computer beside you.
I was initially like this.
One day, I realized that if I was going to wait for DP/DR to leave me alone so I can continue with my life from where I left off then I was going to wait for a long time.
But, when I slowly started reconnecting with my life, the power that this condition had on me slowly weakened.
Don’t wait for your recovery. Start doing the things that you were doing before or the things you wish you were doing. Remember, there’s no need to rush, take it at whatever pace you are comfortable with.
Give up Worrying
This is probably the hardest step. This means not unnecessarily worrying everyday about your depersonalization. This means being ok with setbacks (and there will be setbacks). This means not being in front of your computer researching your symptoms and condition. This means trusting that recovery will come towards you when you stop fighting it.
If you believe in a higher power, then place all your trust in your recovery in that power. If you don’t hold such beliefs, trust in your own body and mind’s ability to heal itself. In other words, when you have finally accepted your DP/DR and are exercising, expressing, and reconnecting with life, you need not worry about whether you’ll recover or not. Stop caring about whether you made recovery each and every day. Trust that you will slowly recover if you follow the above-mentioned steps. That trust is what mostly matters.
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Great words!
I have 1 question: currently i’m really struggling with the fact that i don’t feel happiness, love or the connection with life. This really bothers me when i’m with my boyfriend because i always miss how it felt with him, i miss him when i’m with him (i don’t know if this makes sense) I cry a lot, because i think of how life was before and all the memories make me cry.. how can i move on while feeling like this?
I feel the EXACT same thing and I find this the HARDEST PART OF ALL 🙁 Are you better? Have you found a way to feel better & reconnect with your boyfriend?
Mostly I feel it when I go or move to new places and I didn’t even know what dp/dr was at first and when I did I tried to ignore it but currently I’m not even sure if I still have dp/dr I’m just unsure
I’m really suffering from dp/dr I need help pls🥺
hey, if you want you can send me an dm on instagram, we could talk and such. @tijmen_vi
I’ve been in a constant state of depersonalization/derealization for almost 6 years now, I don’t really let it get in the way of my life anymore however the fact that it’s still here and getting worse is really scary. Does anyone who was in a similar situation have some really solid advice?
I’d urge you to read other articles on this blog.
Swamy G, you don’t know how incredibly supportive and helpful finding your page was a few years ago for me.
About 3 years back I experienced DP/DR after serious stress at work after not realising that I had also had it when I was 18 many years ago too.
I was scared, fully disconnected and confused. Reading your blogs and your free (so much gratitude btw) resources literally helped me cope and overcome. I’ve learnt that my DP/DR is part of my life and nothing to be afraid of anymore. I sometimes get it, most of the time I don’t or at least I don’t notice it anymore and live an amazing life. Ive learnt to use it as a tool for navigating myself out of toxic environments and make positive changes. It’s actually kind of amazing really, like a heightened awareness!
If you’re reading these for the first time I recommend this site and Swamy’s knowledge so much. Things get better, give yourself time, not constraints and be open to how you feel. It takes practice but it’s so worth it.
Yes it can still be uncomfortable sometimes but the severity is way less and I still got to have a great day today despite feeling a little ‘off’.
I always come back to this site whether it’s been months or a year. It reminds me of helpful tools and that I’m not alone.
So again, I want to thank you Swamy G from a very grateful person in the UK 🙂
Hey, thanks for letting me know. I’m glad you’re doing well.
Swamy, I found your page tonight. I have been suffering since 2019 with a neurological impairment that has affected my life all day, every day. I recently read about this condition and I think this is it. I have a full brain and spine MRI scheduled next week. If they come back clean again, I will be very sure this is what I have. I thought I may have MS, but now don’t think that fits. I am so lost and even about to quit my career and change so I can work at home. I know everyone is busy. Would love to connect if you ever had spare time. I made an appointment with a therapist in two weeks. Just a start, but will be someone to talk with about this I guess. Thank you for putting this content out. I may buy the program when my finances are better. All my best to you.