Most people struggle to get rid of depersonalization. What they don’t realize is that the secret to being free of depersonalization lies in not wanting to get rid of it in the first place.
So many people suffer from depersonalization (DP) and derealization (DR) disorder in the world. This disorder makes us feel extremely confused. The symptoms can be unpleasant, weird, bizarre and frightening. They may ask “How long will DP/DR last?” What’s even worse is that we are unable to get rid of DP/DR disorder through medication.
If you are one such person, then let me tell you that you are not alone. When we initially become depersonalized, we desperately try to get rid of it. Sometimes, even after many years, we may fail to do this. We feel depersonalized throughout the day, day after day, and it seems like there’s no end to this saga.
But what if the very act of trying to get rid of DP/DR is what is keeping it going?
Where We Go Wrong
Alright, I want you to think about something for a moment. Just kick back and think about what you are usually trying to do when you feel depersonalized or derealized? Most likely, you are desperately trying to not feel these feelings, right? You put up an internal fight and resist these feelings and symptoms.
This is understandable, who wants to feel these eerie and bizarre symptoms? They are so weird and scary. You simply want these DP/DR symptoms gone quickly!
But what is happening when you fight these feelings and resist feeling them? The answer is that you invariably stress yourself out.
What you are probably not understanding is that this additional stress is what’s causing your DP/DR to stick around longer than it needs to.
You’ve got to understand that stress and your nervous system play a very important role in the onset of your depersonalization. I wrote an article explaining the connection between stress, your nervous system, and depersonalization, it’s definitely something I’d recommend reading and understanding.
The short summary is that the more we fight feelings of depersonalization and derealization, the harder it becomes to free ourselves from this illness. Fighting creates additional stress and stress is what keeps the DP/DR going.
You gotta understand that by wanting to get of rid of depersonalization, you are actually forcing yourself to fight these symptoms and feelings which prolongs the DP/DR. Is that making sense? If not, please go over this paragraph and the linked article above. Understanding this is crucial to your recovery.
Can We Ever Get Rid of Depersonalization?
You might be wondering if fighting DP/DR is what keeps it going then is it ever possible to win this battle against DP/DR? Can we ever truly recover from DP/DR?
The answer is YES, we can cure ourselves of DP/DR, but the cure doesn’t look like what you think.
Here’s what you should keep in mind: you cannot get rid of depersonalization, depersonalization will leave you once your nervous system resets.
This means that you cannot fight your way out of depersonalization. In fact, there is actually no battle against depersonalization. Depersonalization is just a protective mechanism you experience when stress overwhelms you.
Right now, you are in a state of heightened stress. Something stressful in your life has produced these feelings of depersonalization and derealization. Maybe you developed DP/DR from a panic attack that resulted in trauma. Maybe it’s a result of constant stress from overworking or a history of childhood abuse. There are so many causes for someone to develop to depersonalization and derealization.
But worry not, the route to recovery is more or less the same regardless of your cause. We must aim to de-stress and let our nervous system return to normalcy. For that to happen, we must not constantly fight and resist these feelings. If we do so, that just adds more stress, which just keeps to DP/DR going.
Given this is the case, then what can one do? Because we shouldn’t fight or try to get rid of DP/DR, we must aim to do the opposite. That is, we must accept and allow these feelings and symptoms. You probably think I must be crazy to suggest this, but it’s what worked for me and the many people I have helped recover.
In case you are wondering how acceptance approach can cure DP/DR, then you need to read the following articles I have written: